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Character Development Process of a Disciple

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The Role of the Discipler in the Character Development Process of his Disciple.


By Steven Mills

Romans 12:1-2. (v1) So here's what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life-your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life-and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him.  (v2) Don't become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You'll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.  (MSG)
What are we looking for in disciples:


  • Their everyday life has been given to God.
  • What God is doing takes priority in their lives.
  • They have been changed to live by the values of the the Kingdom of God and not according to the values of the world.
  • Their attention fixed on God.

Practical steps of guidance for disciple makers

  1. You must get to know them

a.       Spend time with them in real life situations. (Ac 4:13) Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marvelled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had been with Jesus.

b.      Visit their home - let them visit your home.  (Ac 1:39) He saith unto them, Come and see. They came and saw where he dwelt, and abode with him that day: for it was about the tenth hour.

c.       Minister with them - what are their strengths and their weaknesses

d.      Learn active listening skills

  1. Discipleship is tailor made to the needs of each person

a.       Look for the potential within them – move them toward their potential

b.      Look for the signs of fruitfulness – create an environment conducive for fruit bearing

c.       Make sure what you ask them to do fits their gifts and calling

  1. Understand God hooked you up with these people so you can serve them

a.       Pray for them and their family

b.      Teach them the Word of God

c.       Teach them how to pray

d.      Help them get control over their finances and their time.

e.       Help them to order their family

  1. Help them reach their potential

a.       Make room for them to exercise their gifts

b.      Give them a chance - to succeed or fail

c.       Give constructive correction in a spirit of love

  1. Lay down your life for your disciples

a.       Be available

b.      People do not care how much you know until they know how much you care

c.       Be committed to them

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